PMS And Your Relationship
If you are one of the 80 percent of menstruating women who suffer from PMS, you may be worried about the impact it is having on your relationship with your husband or partner. As well as the painful physical symptoms of PMS, many women report mood swings, depression, and general tearfulness at this difficult time of the menstrual cycle. Your emotional symptoms might vary from (physically) violent outbursts to a mild crying session, often directed at those closest to you. They can leave you struggling to cope with the demands of family life, and leave your partner feeling rejected, frustrated and confused. Fear not! Some good communication and practical planning can help you to reduce the tension in your relationship.
He Needs To Know PMS Is No Joke
we have all been driven crazy by a male friend, family member or partner who
thinks it's hilarious to brush us aside with a well-timed quip about 'that time
of the month'. The comic image of the enraged premenstrual woman has become so
ingrained in the minds of Western males, that your partner might not realize your
PMS is a serious issue. After all, he can never physically experience what you
are going through. Communication is the key - talk to him. It is as much in his
best interests as yours to be well-informed. Encourage him to read up on the
subject, the information here and on the menstruation pages of this website would be a
great place to start.
Plan Your PMS Into Your Relationship
Most women suffer from PMS symptoms from around the middle of their menstrual cycle until their period begins. However, this is not the case for all women, and the best way to avoid the tears, conflicts and monthly relationship doubts is for both of you to know when PMS is about to strike. Try using a calendar on the kitchen wall to record your PMS symptoms cycle by cycle. After a couple of months, both of you will have a visual reference for the days on which you should avoid stressful family events or those deep and meaningful conversations. You might even decide to take time alone on certain days and minimize your contact with your partner. If this is what you need as a PMS sufferer, you should not think of it as a sign of a weak relationship, rather as a realistic approach to a shared problem.
When Things Get More Serious
If your behavior is violent or potentially violent due to PMS, and your partner and/or children may at risk, you must contact your health care provider immediately for advice. No matter how serious or how mild your symptoms are, help is available from your doctor. You and your family need not suffer in silence.