Gaining self-esteem is no easy task. There is no light switch that we can flip to make ourselves stop worrying about the size of our thighs or our breasts, the texture of our hair or the way our skin looks. We'd all like to tell ourselves that how we look isn't important, but the sad truth is that we live in a culture that's obsessed with appearances, making it hard to remember that there really are more important things to think about than what we look like, or how we wear our hair.
Body Image and Self-Esteem
Body image is a major factor in a person's level of self-esteem. There's a lot of pressure on all of us to look and dress a certain way in order to appear successful and confident, but your entire sense of self should not be based on these factors.
Basing your self-esteem on external factors, such as a relationship, having money or a prestigious job is a dangerous trap. Because these things are not under your control, they can go away very suddenly, which could leave you feeling worthless and mentally vulnerable. Instead, try working on things about yourself that only you can control, such as your physical strength or stamina, or try cultivating a sense of inner peace within your self. These are things that make your life better that cannot be taken away from you by other people.
If you have a negative self-image and hold onto it for a long time, it can start to mentally wear on you and eventually, it can have a negative impact on your mental health; leading to shyness, social anxiety and eventually, depression or even alcoholism. Learning to build your own sense of self worth, and gaining control over your emotions, is important for steering yourself away from the slippery slope toward mental illness.
If you are having trouble getting your negative self-image under control, and you feel that you need help, know that you aren't alone and that you shouldn't be embarrassed to talk to your friends, family or a mental health professional.
Love Who You Are
Think about the people whom you are most attracted to. What are they like? Do they seem to radiate something from the inside? Maybe they're extremely confident, while still being kind, or they're beautiful in a way that radiates throughout their entire presence, not just from how they look. Most likely, these people are at peace with themselves and it comes through in their personalities.
Trying to cultivate your own sense of inner peace is easier said than done, but if you can manage it, you will feel better about yourself and the people around you. People will notice the change in you and in turn be attracted to you.
11 Ways to Boost Your Confidence
- Be aware of your own weaknesses and accept them, but don't wallow in them. Remember that nobody is perfect and often it's our flaws that endear us to others ' but only if we don't constantly point them out to everyone around us!
- Once you know your weaknesses, work to strengthen them.
- Try to see challenges as opportunities. Use them to learn new things and grow as a person.
- Remember that it's good to care about the happiness of others, but making everyone else happy is not your responsibility. Don't put the happiness of others above your own' you deserve to be happy too.
- Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
- Figure out what you don't like about yourself and work on changing it.
- Learn about yourself; understand why you do the things you do.
- Have pride in your actions and accomplishment.s
- Remember to pamper yourself, it will reduce stress and you deserve it!
- Accept who you are and learn to love yourself.
- Take the time to notice improvements in your confidence and self-esteem and reward yourself for positive changes.